The Impact Oitnb Has On Lesbian Dating

Lesbian Dating

The Impact OITNB Has on Lesbian Dating

Mary Gorham Malia

Written by: Mary Gorham Malia

Mary Gorham Malia

Mary G. Malia, founder of Gay Girl Dating Coach, is a certified singles coach, strategic intervention coach and author of the book "The Gay Girl’s Guide to Avoid the 14 Dating Traps." She’s known as the leading resource and expert for lesbians who want to move past the barriers to finding love and lasting relationships.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Lesbian prison dating! Did you know this was happening?

It’s a total shift from watching the privilege and prettiness of dating and relationships on “The L-Word.”

Orange is the New Black” is an American dramedy series that is in its second season on Netflix. It’s a hit in more than just the lesbian community and for good reason.

There’s lots of bare breasts, bare ass and sexualized conversation. It’s a turn-on!

The show portrays the drama of lesbian dating

If we just stick with the story line and suspend belief, which is a requirement for buying into any story, then what you see are all kinds of women from all kinds of backgrounds who are connecting, having sex, cheating on husbands and boyfriends, experimenting sexually with women and even falling in love.

There’s the drama of lesbian dating we are all familiar with, like the “bang-off” contest between the characters Nicky Nichols and Carrie “Big Boo” Black to see who can have sex with the most women.

Ultimately they agree to call a truce on it, but it’s the kind of thing that really does happen in some younger lesbian circles.

It makes for a tantalizing fantasy for any lesbian, but most real-life lesbians will never be found playing the “bang-off” game.

The show portrays the confusion of lesbian dating

Then there’s the central story in season one, the confusing and irresistible relationship between Piper and Alex, the woman who got Piper locked up.

Piper calls it experimenting, but ultimately she finds her attraction and interest in Alex takes over.

This series shows us so many ways lesbians in prison can hook up, but what’s going on in real life? Well, actually lots of the same things these days.

Walking along Commercial Street in Ptown a month ago, I could hear two young lesbians talking about the hookup they had in a hallway the night before.

“Did it mean anything? Are you just a player? Why did you do that to me?” There’s some familiar post-first date with sex conversation going on right there.

OITNB is titillating the world!

The show is turning on lesbians, straight women and, of course, men. That’s a given.

But is it getting lesbians out dating and playing under the sheets? I sure hope so.

What’s the impact OITHB has on lesbian dating?

Perhaps it’s showing the world real lesbians aren’t jumping into bed with stilettos and French manicures!

Perhaps real lesbians who haven’t dated in a long time are getting all stirred up and back into the dating scene.

I hope it’s the kind of TV fare that gets sit-at-home lesbians up off their asses and out looking for love and connection.

Dating in prison is never going to compare to dating in real life. In prison, the lesbians are all captive! You can actually find the lesbians!

That’s the hardest part of real-life lesbian dating and the number one question I’m always asked.

Where are the lesbians?” Hmmm, having sex on “Orange is the New Black!”

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