What Men Want In A Partner

Women's Dating

What Men Want in a Partner

Susie & Otto Collins

Written by: Susie & Otto Collins

Susie & Otto Collins

Susie and Otto Collins are relationship coaches and authors as well as soul mates, best friends and lovers. Since 1999, Susie and Otto have been sharing their message with men and women all over the globe about how to attract love and keep the spark alive. They are the authors of "Automatic Attraction Secrets," "Magic Relationship Words," "No More Jealousy" and many other books, audios and programs. Find out how to create and keep a happy and lasting love relationship with Susie and Otto Collins’ free ebook "Passionate Spark~Lasting Love."

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

Discuss This! Discuss This!
Advertiser Disclosure

Do you feel clueless when it comes to getting a date? Here is help for decoding men.

The stereotype is women give mixed messages and are difficult to read, but this goes both ways. Just about every woman will tell you that men can be just as confusing.

You might think he is interested, but then he looks the other way. Or maybe you are in the situation where you had a great time when the two of you went out, but now he is not returning your texts.

What is the deal?!

If you are frustrated trying to figure out the man you have been dating (or the one you would like to date), take heart. Men are not as different as you may think.

Both men and women value physical attractiveness in a potential partner, but that is not all. Qualities like honesty, patience, and kindness count for something as well.

There is not one official list of what men are looking for in a long-term partner. It is best to consider what you read in magazines and online, but do not obsess about what you read.

Instead of overanalyzing, take our dating advice and work on your side of the relationship equation…because that’s the side you have control over!

1. Be your best self.

One thing many single women do that is a huge turn-off is they try too hard to be something they are not. They do this because that is the only way they think they will get the guy.

When you stop trying to impress, your best self has a chance to show. Take my advice and be authentic and allow yourself to shine just as you are.

If you are convinced your best self is not good enough, this is an opportunity to strengthen your self-esteem. Catch yourself if you play the comparing game. No matter how you look or what you do, it is not a game you can win.

Instead, intentionally find what you can really appreciate about yourself. Once you know what your best self is like, you can let that be seen more often. That is what will attract your perfect match.

“When your mind wanders, focus on

what is true in the present.”

2. Be present.

A bad habit that obscures a single person’s best self is getting stuck in the past. If you often make snap judgments about people or situations because of what happened to you before, this will instantly derail a date.

Keep your attention in the present moment. Be here now. When your mind wanders, bring it back and focus on what is true in the present.

This bit of dating advice will help you avoid misunderstandings and will provide you with important information.

Advertiser Disclosure

DatingAdvice.com is a free online resource that offers valuable content and comparison services to users. To keep this resource 100% free, we receive compensation from many of the offers listed on the site. Along with key review factors, this compensation may impact how and where products appear across the site (including, for example, the order in which they appear). DatingAdvice.com does not include the entire universe of available offers. Editorial opinions expressed on the site are strictly our own and are not provided, endorsed, or approved by advertisers.

Our Editorial Review Policy

Our site is committed to publishing independent, accurate content guided by strict editorial guidelines. Before articles and reviews are published on our site, they undergo a thorough review process performed by a team of independent editors and subject-matter experts to ensure the content’s accuracy, timeliness, and impartiality. Our editorial team is separate and independent of our site’s advertisers, and the opinions they express on our site are their own. To read more about our team members and their editorial backgrounds, please visit our site’s About page.