You Can’t Hurry Love

There are a lot of relationship blogs out there. Most are humorous ones that chronicle weekly dates or endless musings about the bizarre world of online dating.

These stories are funny and entertaining, but I longed for more. I wanted comforting dating advice I could relate to when the loneliness started to kick in and it was too late at night to call my friends.

So I would turn on my computer with the hopes of finding a beam of virtual support that cheered, “Chin up, darlin’. I have been there and you are gonna be just fine!”

When search results yielded little comfort, I started to scribble positive traits and daily inspirations in my diary. My diary was no longer a book filled with “poor me” entries. Now it was a book filled with “go me” entries.

I shared these mini self-confidence boosters and they were inspirational to more than just me.

So here I am, hoping a 30-something girl coming out of a relationship will enter a few words into a search engine and find the happiness and comfort she deserves.

In the grand scheme of things, it does not matter if you take an extra year or more to find the person you are going to spend the next 50 years with. Put things into perspective, and it’s easier to have patience.

I believe certain things, especially quality men, are worth the wait. It is not time for your story to start, but it will come. The best stories are always saved for last.

“I know you are a prize

worthy of love.”

I want to introduce to you the three Cs:

1. Communication.

Communicate your heartache to a best friend, cat, dog or anyone who will listen. Release the heartache from your heart.

2. Cut him off.

Hide or throw out anything that reminds you of the relationship. At this stage, memory triggers are dangerous. Why do you want to be reminded of the clown that got in the way of meeting Mr. Right?

3. Continue on your journey.

The key message here is to keep moving. It is the hardest part, but it’s the most important. When the perfect guy comes along, you need to be ready.

Darling, I can relate. I know deep down in there, beneath the pieces of your shattered heart, you are a prize worthy of love.

I know you do not like how you are feeling. I surely did not.

I am still single and it has been a year since my relationship ended, but I am better now than I was. I am a lot better.

So pinch those cheeks to bring back a rosy glow to your face and try smiling at yourself in the mirror. You will get through this phase.