How To Get Over A Girl You Stilllike

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How to Get Over a Girl You Still Like

Sam Stieler

Written by: Sam Stieler

Sam Stieler

Sam has been writing about dating and relationships for more than three years now. He holds a bachelor's degree from Bucknell University, has self-published a few of his own books and is currently working on mastering the double right turn in his salsa dancing classes.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Have you recently ended things with a girl whom you still experience deep feelings for? If so, you’re sitting in a difficult position. Part of you wants to hold on to these feelings forever, while another part of you just wants to let go and remove her from your head and your heart.

As much as we all like to delve into nostalgic sentiment from time to time, the latter impulse represents your healthier option. And here’s how you do just that:

Date other girls.

What, were you expecting some other piece of advice? Were you expecting something you hadn’t heard before, a new technique for cutting the emotional chord, a unique strategy employed by relationship ninjas to release attachments quickly and effortlessly?

Sorry, there are no shortcuts to getting over a girl you like. There is no affirmation you can repeat, visualization exercise you can dive into or any single word of wisdom that will heal your aching heart and drive this girl from your mind.

Even if you do find an affirmation that appears effective, it will only work for the extreme short term. You may be able to experience emotional peace by repeating a line of untrue nonsense such as “I am free from all lingering constrains” seven dozen times in a row, but the moment of clarity you develop will dissolve back into intense fixation as soon as you leave lotus position and face the real world once more.

The only way to get over “this one girl” is to go out there and start dating other girls.


“If you’re going to get over your current

girl, you need to form a connection.”

Do I have to become a man slut?

Yes. Provided, of course, by “man slut” you mean a man who goes out there and gives his all to the challenge of not only meeting new women, but of allowing those women to potentially mean something to you, whether for a night, a couple months, or even for years to come.

If you really want to get over the girl who has your heart on lock, you cannot approach your new dating life with anything other than total commitment.

For some men, that will mean going out there and sleeping with as many new women as possible. For other men, this will mean going out there and looking for a new woman to give their heart to.

Both of these approaches can be effective, though I humbly suggest, no matter how many women you sleep with, that you won’t be able to really get over your current girl until you form a deep emotional connection with a new woman.

A period of sleeping around can be great, and healthy, and for many men, it can be absolutely necessary, but eventually you will realize a string of meaningless connections will do little to recover your heart.

Random hookups are fun but they rarely stick, and if you’re going to get over your current girl, you need to form a connection that impacts you at least as powerfully as your last relationship.

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