I Sang for Her to Show How I Feel. What Should I Do Now?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

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Reader Question:

I’ve known this girl for a few months, and she knows I like her. When I asked her out, she agreed and we went out two times. I don’t know how she feels about me. Before we went out, I sang for her. I made a song to show how I feel about her. After singing, she was so speechless and I don’t know what that face meant. Everything was going well for both of us, but still I feel like there’s something wrong.

What should I do now?

-Hibatur Rahman

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:


In old-fashioned romantic books, paintings and poems, men courted women. They brought her flowers and chocolate and may even have serenaded her. But today, sadly, such rituals might be considered cheesy – a little too much, over-the-top attention.

Here’s the thing: Both men and women want to date someone of a higher status. We all want to snare a prize.

Men display their status by spending wasteful money on women. Women display their status by attempting to increase their beauty. And when a man courts a woman too hard, she may perceive he is below her.

We all want a little chase – a little unknowing about whether we can have someone’s attention. You gave her your time and your talent right up front and showed your cards a little too early. That’s all.

Now back off a bit. Let some time go between calls and sightings. She’ll notice you when you try a little less hard.

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