I Still Live at Home. How Do I Meet Women?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh is the author of "The 30-Day Love Detox"" (April 2013).

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles and reports have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement.

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Reader Question:

I am a 42-year-old male who has never been married and is seeking a relationship. The one red flag is that I still live at home, not because I’m a bum or like living at home. It’s because I suffer from a serious stomach disorder and have been on disability since 25.

Where and how do I go about meeting women? How do I reduce the chance of them automatically rejecting me because of my living situation?

-Ian (New York)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Oh Ian, my heart goes out to you. You deserve love and companionship as much as anyone else.

The reason why women may see your living situation as a red flag is because they assume you will then go on to shift your dependency from your parents to them.

My suggestion is to create the perception of independence as much as possible. If you can’t work, participate in hobbies and self-care as much as you can.

In order to have a partner, you have to be able to be a partner. Ask yourself what unique quality you have that would become an asset to a woman. And then market that.


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