I Want to Be With Her Again. What Do I Do?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I used to date this girl named Jessica. We were planning on spending our lives together. One night while we were dating, I went to a basketball game and this girl started to converse with me. We got really close but nothing else happened. Jessica’s friend took a picture of me and sent it to her, and then Jessica broke up with me. I now date the girl because I needed closure after Jessica. She now has a new boyfriend also, but I want to be with her again. When I tried to tell her what happened, it just went in one ear and out the other.

So what do I do?

-Ivery (Connecticut)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

As long as you are dating the other woman, no matter your feelings for her, your words will fall on dead ears. Behavior speaks way louder than words. How about breaking up with the girl, waiting a couple weeks, and then calling your love with a sincere apology?

Even if it was a big misunderstanding, an olive branch extended with an “I’m sorry” is very powerful. You may not win her back, but you will be true to your word.


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