I’m New to Dating. Is it OK to Date Multiple Women?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I’m new to dating after 10 years. Is it OK to date multiple women (but not sleep with them) and get to know them while you weed out the ones you’re not compatible with?

If they ask if you’re seeing others, do you lie to them? I’m not trying to be a player or use woman for sex, but I’m also not trying to miss out on the right one because I’ve been wasting time on the wrong ones.

-Jon (Florida)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Jon,

Absolutely date multiple women to decide which you will be most compatible with for the long run. If you are not having sex with them, you have no obligation to them to be exclusive.

If they ask, be honest but don’t gush with details. Simply say you are dating and when you’re ready to enter a sexual relationship, you will choose one woman to be exclusive with.

Trust me, this kind of talk will make you really attractive to women!


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