Is it Wrong to Break Up with Someone Because of Their Looks?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I’ve been dating this great girl for a year and a half. She’s the mothering kind of girlfriend. She takes care of me and it’s awesome. One problem — I never thought she was pretty.

I knew I was settling when I started dating her, and now we’re buying our own place. We’re so stable that there is no question that we’re going to get married. However, I can see problems 20 years ahead. I think she deserves better.

Is it wrong to break up with someone just because of their looks?

-George P. (Florida)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear George,

In a word, YES! I’m sorry that our superficial media messages that place hotness above a beautiful heart have made you confused. Newsflash: Pretty women are more likely to break up with a guy when the going gets rough because they know their value in the sexual marketplace and feel a boyfriend is replaceable.

Here you have a woman you think is awesome. One who loves you, cares for you and is loyal. Those qualities are exactly what you need for a long-term, healthy relationship.

Oh, and by the way, in 20 years, you’ll probably be cured of the “young man’s fascination with beauty.” Hopefully, you’ll be wise and grateful that you married such a gorgeous heart.


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