She Has Problems with Intimacy. How Do I Go About This?

Gina Stewart
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Reader Question:

In August, my best friend got married. He kept telling me I need to meet his future sister-in-law. Once I met her, we totally hit it off.

The only problem was she was very reserved regarding intimacy. She told me she has had problems with intimacy since she broke up with her ex.

She told me she did like me but was not in a place to be seriously dating anyone. She wanted to maintain a friendship, but I couldn’t do that.

I don’t know if I should tell her how I feel or if I should still give her space.

How do I go about this?

-Josh (New York)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

You’re not in a place to do anything. When someone tells you they don’t want to be with you, whether it be right now or ever, you just have to respect that.

There is such a thing as the right person but at the wrong time. If she’s not at that place yet, she’s just not there. If she has feelings for you, it’s in her court to come to you.

Meanwhile, you need to live your life.


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