She Cancelled Our Plans. How Should I Read This Situation?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

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Reader Question:

An ex-girlfriend recently invited me over her place for dinner. That was the first time we had been together in a few months. We both had a great time that night. Over the past week or so, her texting has become a lot more flirty than usual. We made plans for this weekend but she cancelled early, saying she wasn’t feeling well and asking for a rain check on our date.

How should I read this situation?

-Drabs (Massachusetts)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Drabs,

I’m less interested in what you might be reading into her than what your intentions are.

Do you like this woman? What caused the breakup? Do you really want to get back together?

Remember, the best predictor of someone’s future behavior is their past behavior.

I’ll tell you this: She’s flirting with the idea of getting back together, but it may not be related to you. She may be in between boyfriends and need some familiar company.

I say this because her “sick call” on the weekend plans may be because she has a better offer or she’s feeling ambivalent.

The answer, as always, is to bring it up. Ask what her intentions are and tell her clearly about your feelings.

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