She Cancelled Our Plans. How Should I Read This Situation?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh is the author of "The 30-Day Love Detox"" (April 2013).

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Reader Question:

An ex-girlfriend recently invited me over her place for dinner. That was the first time we had been together in a few months. We both had a great time that night. Over the past week or so, her texting has become a lot more flirty than usual. We made plans for this weekend but she cancelled early, saying she wasn’t feeling well and asking for a rain check on our date.

How should I read this situation?

-Drabs (Massachusetts)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Drabs,

I’m less interested in what you might be reading into her than what your intentions are.

Do you like this woman? What caused the breakup? Do you really want to get back together?

Remember, the best predictor of someone’s future behavior is their past behavior.

I’ll tell you this: She’s flirting with the idea of getting back together, but it may not be related to you. She may be in between boyfriends and need some familiar company.

I say this because her “sick call” on the weekend plans may be because she has a better offer or she’s feeling ambivalent.

The answer, as always, is to bring it up. Ask what her intentions are and tell her clearly about your feelings.

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