She Disappeared Out of Nowhere. What Am I Doing Wrong?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I have been seeing this girl for the past couple of weeks (met on Match.com) and we have been having a great time. She invited me to one of her student’s birthday parties and to hang out with her family. The last time we had a lot to drink and she was even talking about the rest of our lives together. I have held off on the physical contact due to liking this girl.

Now these seem like signs that she really likes me. Then out of nowhere she seemed to disappear. It’s obvious that it’s me.

What do you think I am doing wrong?

-Michael (Texas)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

I don’t know Michael. Was it something you said? All joking aside, there is nothing more confusing than not having all the access to information in a conflict. And she’s showing you early on that she doesn’t have good communication or conflict resolution skills.

I’d call her and try to address her absence and ask for more information. If she doesn’t respond, you may be fortunate to have lost her before things got too far along.


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