She Never Calls or Texts. Why is She Suddenly Ignoring Me?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

We’ve known each other for years and recently I moved away from her area. I tried not to let the distance change anything and continued my heavy flirtation via daily texts and consistent phone calls.

It seemed we were starting to seriously crush on each other. I poured my heart out to her. She ended up telling me she has feelings for me too but doesn’t want to date because we’d never see each other. I just figured I’ll wait for her. A couple days after that, I get no response. She never calls, texts or anything.

Why is she suddenly ignoring me?

-Thomas (Texas)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Thomas,

She is ignoring you because she just broke up with you.

I know you may want to keep the friendship, even if she doesn’t want to date, but the flirtatious nature of your communication is inappropriate for a platonic friendship.

Wait a while — weeks or months — and then communicate with her in a nonsexual, professional manner.

You may not salvage the relationship or even the friendship, but it’s worth a try.


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