Reader Question:
An overwhelming majority of the women I date are professional women who earn a lot more money than I do. I have no problem with this. I have a good job, but it doesn’t pay as much as the careers these women have.
I sometimes wonder if my earnings exclude me with these ladies because I’m not at “their level.” As you have pointed out, women today are the hunters/gatherers and I could end up as a house husband changing all of the diapers.
How do I make myself appealing to them? How do I not come off as weak?
-Jeff (New York)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:
Jeff,
Excellent questions. So many successful women are suffering from what sociologists call a “George Clooney effect,” meaning the more successful they become, the more successful of a man they desire.
But the smart career women are starting to see a good man is a good partner who is able to help with the household and child rearing.
What I’m not clear about is this: Are you not interested in being a fair domestic partner with a high-earning woman?
If not, then you should date less successful women so you can feel like a traditional male.
On the other hand, if you can see yourself being very involved on the home front, you can come off looking strong by assuming a huge protector role.
Can you physically protect her? Can you legally protect her? Can you financially protect her by managing the money? Can you show her you have her back?
This is a strong man to any woman.
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