I Want to Get Her a Ring. Is It Too Soon?

Gina Stewart

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Gina Stewart

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Reader Question:

I have been dating someone for about eight months now. We are in love and have told each other I love you.

Valentine’s day is coming up and I want to get her a ring. It’s not an engagement ring but just something that says I love you and I plan on being here.

Is it to soon, or do you think it will be too much?

-Craig (North Carolina)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

Rings are definitely a romantic and symbolic gesture. A ring given on Valentine’s Day carries the full weight of that symbolism.

While it’s not too much to give a nice piece of jewelry at your stage of dating, I would be cautious if you do plan to go the ring route. When you place a ring box in front of her, she may anticipate it as being an engagement ring before she opens it.

After all, it is Valentine’s Day and you are in love…a girl sees a box in front of her and her brain will jump there.

This could lead to a lot of misplaced emotions depending on where she’s at in your relationship, so you don’t want to set her up for the wrong expectations.

Perhaps a different type of jewelry is a better option: a necklace, bracelet or earrings? If you’re set on a ring, just be mindful of your presentation of such a gift.

Regardless, it’s a lovely gesture to want to give her something to showcase your intentions.

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