Are Men Really Scared of Approaching Women?

Are Men Really Scared Of Approaching Women
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Nick Slade
Lillian Castro

By: Nick Slade

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Rattlesnakes and rabid pit bulls have nothing on a sweet petite woman when it comes to intimidating a man. Sure, we learn to cover up our fear and cowardice with a manly swagger or have a shot of courage before we make the approach, but there are many times when it takes every ounce of our courage just to smile and say hello.

The reasons are many and are different for different men. In general terms, the “why” can be put into three categories:

  • Next to a beautiful woman, we feel like a turd in the punch bowl.

We find it absurd to think that such a beautiful and sweet creature would be interested in talking to us.

  • She’s going to know what we really want.

Well, we really just want to get close to her and look in her eyes right now, but she’s bound to think we just want sex. Women get hit on so often and by so many sleaze bags that they are bound to group us in with the lowlifes.

  • She might reject us.

Our skin may be tough as leather, but our egos are very fragile.

If a woman has a warm smile and a welcoming nature to put us at ease, we will be much more likely to take the risk and make a move.

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Nick Slade

By: Nick Slade

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Nick spent 20 years in the dating scene before marriage. He has always been the guy friends would come to for advice on relationships, and he developed a knack for giving helpful insights. After college, Nick was a disc jockey for a few years, when the love generation was still alive, so Nick has a lot of relevant experience to draw from when it comes to every aspect of dating, falling in love and screwing things up. He holds Bachelor's degree in humanities and a slew of master’s credits in journalism. Nick is a news junkie and tries to keep up on the latest non-fiction when he has time. He has published two books on how to win at dating and relationships.

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