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I’ve been seeing this guy for a while now. Well, I say “seeing” but we just meet whenever we’re out and one of us feels like it. We never make an effort to see each other or anything. We have been friends for about two years now, and on New Year’s this year, he was being so sweet and asked if he could kiss me. It was adorable.
We’re just very casual. He is such a player so he meets other people and so do I, which suits me fine. He’s moving to a different country in September, so there’s no point in things going any further. However, recently when I see him out, he only really makes an effort with me when I’m ignoring him and vice versa, and when I try to get his attention, he usually finds some other girl. This really pisses me off and I don’t know why because I know we’re not a thing. Do I have feelings for this guy? I really don’t know what’s going on in my head anymore!
-Niamh M. (California)
I’m sorry to break it to you, but you absolutely have a thing for this guy. Why else would you be writing me and talking about a kiss that happened months and months ago on New Year’s Eve? In your letter, you call this guy a “player” and he sounds like just that. In the beginning, you may have been OK with the two of you hanging out and keeping it casual. But like most women, you’ve developed feelings for him along the way.
Since this guy is moving to a different country in September, I’d advise for you to move on. It seems like all this guy wants to do is play games. If you could play along without getting your emotions involved, then I’d say have fun. But let’s face it, you’ve already proven that you’re emotionally involved. I say save face and save the emotional turmoil of constantly second-guessing yourself. It’s time to move on.
Best of luck,
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