He Doesn’t Message Me As Much. Is He Being Shy?

He Doesnt Message Me As Much Is He Being Shy
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Dr. Wendy Walsh
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By: Dr. Wendy Walsh

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Reader Question:

A few days ago I went on a date with someone who is two years younger than me from an online dating site. Our date lasted four hours and we had a good time. At the end of the date, he suggested that next weekend he would want to hang out and even offered to walk me home. But I am going crazy thinking he’s not into me because he doesn’t message me on Facebook or on the dating site as much now.

Is he just being shy and keeping it cool, or should I forget about him altogether?

-Corrine (British Columbia)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

The answer is probably yes to both of your questions. It’s only been a few days, Corrine. I’d be more worried about a cling-on who calls soon after the date.

You need to contain yourself and see what unfolds before you make predictions about the future. And yes, one technique to containing yourself is to forget about him altogether and focus your attention elsewhere.


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Dr. Wendy Walsh

By: Dr. Wendy Walsh

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Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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