How To Get A Guy To Hold Your Hand

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7 Ways to Get a Guy to Hold Your Hand

Nick Slade

Written by: Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Nick spent 20 years in the dating scene before marriage. He has always been the guy friends would come to for advice on relationships, and he developed a knack for giving helpful insights. After college, Nick was a disc jockey for a few years, when the love generation was still alive, so Nick has a lot of relevant experience to draw from when it comes to every aspect of dating, falling in love and screwing things up. He holds Bachelor's degree in humanities and a slew of master’s credits in journalism. Nick is a news junkie and tries to keep up on the latest non-fiction when he has time. He has published two books on how to win at dating and relationships.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Holding hands is the first physical connection between two potential lovers, and it has the power to draw them close in a way they never really imagined before.

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What’s a girl to do if she wants a guy to hold her hand? Follow these 7 tips!

1. Wait Until You’re Some Place Private

Private doesn’t have to mean alone. You can be in a crowd, as long as you are anonymous strangers to the people around you.

Strolling through the park, walking in the mall or sitting in a movie theater are great occasions for dates and holding hands. School or the restaurant where all of his friends hang out are not.

Young guys are often very nervous about public displays of affection, so make sure the setting is comfortable for him.

2. Relax

Sure you’re nervous, but he’s a lot more nervous. Romance is not a manly thing in the slowly-maturing mind of a young man.

He has a lot to risk, whereas there is only upside for a girl if your friends should happen to catch you holding hands.

Your calm demeanor and welcoming smile will help him relax and build up his courage, too.

3. Hold His Arm

If this is a date or a prearranged meeting, you can be sure he likes you and is there for you. Walk side by side and take his arm with your hand. This is totally appropriate behavior for a lady being escorted by a gentleman at any age.

It will make him feel like a man and will initiate physical contact. This also is your unspoken permission for him to touch you in a polite way.

Do him a favor. If you see his friends approaching (or your friends, for that matter), let go of his arm so he doesn’t feel uncomfortable.

If there are no familiar faces in sight, you should reach across your body with your far arm and grab your other hand near his elbow.

If he responds to your touch with his hand, take that as an invitation to give him your full hand.

4. Pull Him

If you’re walking in the mall, slide your hand down his arm and grab his hand as you excitedly pull him over to a store window to get a closer look at something one of you might be interested in – shoes for you, a shirt for him, a guitar or whatever.

At the park, you can pull him by the hand over to a shady tree or a bench. You will be able to tell if he wants to keep holding your hand. Of course, he wants to keep holding your hand. He may even put his arm around you.

5. Put Your Hands Close to His

You aren’t always walking when you’re with your guy. This is a good time to use the reliable method of brushing knuckles.

You can “accidentally” play a little footsie with him under the table or make sure your knees come in contact to break the ice, too.

With both elbows on the table and your hands clasped, you can get your mitts very close to him simply by unbending your arms forward and laying them on the table.

At the movies, you share an arm rest, so get to it first. Put your elbow on to his side of the arm rest and put your hand on the end of it. If he does the same, you’ll be holding hands.

6. Show Him Your Nails, Read His Palm…

There are dozens of excuses you can use to get him to take your hand.

Ask him if your hands feel cold. When he takes your hand, tell him it feels good or rub his hands to warm yours up, and then tell him how good and strong his hands feel (not how soft or smooth, please).

Google palm reading and get to know a couple of things about it. Bring it up in conversation, and if he doesn’t ask for a reading, just tell him you want to read his palm.

If that doesn’t work, challenge him to a thumb wrestling match.

7. Take His Hand!

If all else fails, stop pussyfooting around and take his hand! Hey, you’re a lady of the 21st century and you don’t need to wait around for some guy to get up the courage to hold your hand.

You’re walking next to him? Take his hand. His hand is on the table in front of you? Put both of your hands on top of it and then pull one back.

Just do it quickly and confidently without looking at your hands. It will seem natural and he won’t mind one bit.

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