I Worry He Isn’t Interested. Is He Playing It Cool?

Gina Stewart
Gina Stewart Updated:
Discuss This! Discuss This!
Advertiser Disclosure

Reader Question:

I’ve been seeing this guy for a month who I met online. We’ve been talking pretty much every day since our first date. We also slept together on the third date.

After we go out, he usually waits a few days to book our next date. Therefore, I’m only seeing him once a week. I worry he isn’t that interested since he is not beating down my door to see me again.

Could he just be playing it cool?

-Ally (North Carolina)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

Ally, enjoy the man. He contacts you consistently? He asks you out with notice? I think a hundred women just boarded flights to North Carolina.

He may just be taking his time and wanting to do things right. Rushing into things is something fools are known to do, not the wise.

And by all means, you can throw the guy a bone and get to see him sooner by asking him out. Sometimes guys need a little encouragement that you want to see them, too.


No counseling or psychotherapy advice: The Site does not provide psychotherapy advice. The Site is intended only for use by consumers in search of general information of interest pertaining to problems people may face as individuals and in relationships and related topics. Content is not intended to replace or serve as substitute for professional consultation or service. Contained observations and opinions should not be misconstrued as specific counseling advice.

Advertiser Disclosure

DatingAdvice.com is a free online resource that offers valuable content and comparison services to users. To keep this resource 100% free, we receive compensation from many of the offers listed on the site. Along with key review factors, this compensation may impact how and where products appear across the site (including, for example, the order in which they appear). DatingAdvice.com does not include the entire universe of available offers. Editorial opinions expressed on the site are strictly our own and are not provided, endorsed, or approved by advertisers.

Our Editorial Review Policy

Our site is committed to publishing independent, accurate content guided by strict editorial guidelines. Before articles and reviews are published on our site, they undergo a thorough review process performed by a team of independent editors and subject-matter experts to ensure the content’s accuracy, timeliness, and impartiality. Our editorial team is separate and independent of our site’s advertisers, and the opinions they express on our site are their own. To read more about our team members and their editorial backgrounds, please visit our site’s About page.