I Worry He Isn’t Interested. Is He Playing It Cool?

Gina Stewart
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Reader Question:

I’ve been seeing this guy for a month who I met online. We’ve been talking pretty much every day since our first date. We also slept together on the third date.

After we go out, he usually waits a few days to book our next date. Therefore, I’m only seeing him once a week. I worry he isn’t that interested since he is not beating down my door to see me again.

Could he just be playing it cool?

-Ally (North Carolina)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

Ally, enjoy the man. He contacts you consistently? He asks you out with notice? I think a hundred women just boarded flights to North Carolina.

He may just be taking his time and wanting to do things right. Rushing into things is something fools are known to do, not the wise.

And by all means, you can throw the guy a bone and get to see him sooner by asking him out. Sometimes guys need a little encouragement that you want to see them, too.

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