I’m Not Good at Flirting. Can You Give Me Advice?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

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Reader Question:

I just recently found my ex on Facebook and we have been talking. I’m looking for a website that will teach me how to flirt. I’m not very good at it and wondered if you could give me some advice on that?

-Michelle (Massachusetts)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

First of all, are you sure you want to become a “retrosexual” — someone who dates a long-ago love? Time often helps you put on a pair of rose-colored glasses that focuses on only the good things about an old relationship, but, for the most part, people don’t change much.

I guarantee if you get back together, you’ll suddenly remember quite clearly why you broke up.

Having said that, let me turn to your real question…how to flirt. The best way to flirt is in person with body language, giggles, hair flips and fun, nervous glances. But if you’re asking me how to flirt online, I say, stick to compliments, and if you do get into sexually suggestive language, use only metaphors.

“Gosh, I was thinking about that time we nearly started a house fire with all the heat one night” is much more flirtatious than “I miss your penis.”

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