I’m Tired of Internet Dating. What Should I Do?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

My boyfriend passed away in 2009. Later that year, I decided I did not want to spend the rest of my life solo. I still have not found someone special. I have been online three years now. I have found I have to meet the person before I really feel any sort of a connection. All the hours on the Internet have turned me off and I am tired of the Internet dating. I have gotten scammed by guys requesting money.

What should I do?

-Mary (New York)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Darling Mary, I feel for you. All this technology may be keeping us in touch but it has also kept us from touching anything tender.

My advice is simple. Get off the Internet. Open your eyes in the real world. Find male friends with common interests. Join community groups. Join hobby groups. Take up a new sport. Golf anyone?

Ask every married woman you know to set you up. Get busy living. Grow an attractive lifestyle and showcase the fact you are kind, smart, energetic and whole. Then ask yourself if you are ready for a merger. If you build it, he will come.

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