Is He Talking to Me Because We Are Close Friends, or is He Interested?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh is the author of "The 30-Day Love Detox"" (April 2013).

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Reader Question:

I have been friends with this guy since I was 10 years old. Since high school and now into college, we started talking more. Ever since he broke up with his long-time girlfriend, he’s been talking to me a bit more. For the past couple weeks, he’s been messaging, texting and Skyping a whole lot more than usual.

I was wondering if he was just talking to me because we are close friends, because he doesn’t have a girlfriend anymore, or is he interested in me?

-Brie R. (Idaho)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

My bet is he’s interested. Rarely do guys talk on the phone with a girl, especially SKYPE, if they aren’t hoping for a sexual relationship. You are in a great power place in this relationship.

The longer you can delay sexual contact, the more likely you will be able to get a commitment from him. I will remind you not to initiate texts, calls or emails. Guys like to do a bit of chasing to know they have a catch. Let him lead. Be happy and busy and see what he does.

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