The Minister I’m Dating Hasn’t Contacted Me. Should I Contact Him?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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Lillian Castro

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Reader Question:

I have been seeing a minister for about three months. He has made it clear he really only has Fridays and Mondays available. There has been limited time to get to know each other.

He has made overtures to move much quicker than I am willing to do so. He made an attempt to kiss me. I had to explain I really had not kissed a guy. I have some religious beliefs and promises I have made that make me hesitant.

He asked when we can meet again. I said Monday evening will be fine. I text him to see how his Sunday services went. He did not text me back, nor did he contact me about going out Monday.

Should I try to contact him? Or should I just chalk it up to a loss and take my learned lessons?

-Elisea (Virginia)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Darling, hold your values strong. If this minister is worth his salt at counseling others about how to grow a strong bond, he should not be afraid to do it with you.

My advice: Don’t chase him. Stay off text. When he calls, reward him with happiness in your voice.

Let him spin in and out, but you stay strong and know you are lovable and the love you will accept is one that takes time to grow.

You are in control here. Don’t make him doubt yourself.

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