The Minister I’m Dating Hasn’t Contacted Me. Should I Contact Him?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I have been seeing a minister for about three months. He has made it clear he really only has Fridays and Mondays available. There has been limited time to get to know each other.

He has made overtures to move much quicker than I am willing to do so. He made an attempt to kiss me. I had to explain I really had not kissed a guy. I have some religious beliefs and promises I have made that make me hesitant.

He asked when we can meet again. I said Monday evening will be fine. I text him to see how his Sunday services went. He did not text me back, nor did he contact me about going out Monday.

Should I try to contact him? Or should I just chalk it up to a loss and take my learned lessons?

-Elisea (Virginia)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Darling, hold your values strong. If this minister is worth his salt at counseling others about how to grow a strong bond, he should not be afraid to do it with you.

My advice: Don’t chase him. Stay off text. When he calls, reward him with happiness in your voice.

Let him spin in and out, but you stay strong and know you are lovable and the love you will accept is one that takes time to grow.

You are in control here. Don’t make him doubt yourself.

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