I’ve Tried Two Dating Sites with No Spark. How Do I Get Back Out There?

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Written by: Dr. Wendy Walsh

Dr. Wendy Walsh

Known as America's Relationship Expert, Dr. Wendy Walsh is an award-winning television journalist, radio host & podcaster, and the author of three books on relationships and thousands of print and digital articles. More than 1.5 million people follow her sage advice on social media. She holds a Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology and teaches in the Psychology Department at California State University Channel Islands and has been the host of "The Dr. Wendy Walsh Show" on iHeart Radio's KFI AM 640 since 2015. Walsh is also a former Emmy-nominated co-host of "The Doctors," as well as former host of the nationally syndicated show "EXTRA." She was named a Time Magazine Person of the Year in 2017 after speaking out about harassment at a major news network.

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Lillian Castro

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Reader Question:

I am going to be 50 this year. I have been divorced for more than 10 years and have only dated two men in these years. I have not been on a date in five years.

I go out with my ex-husband and my children on the weekends for family time.

I tried one or two dating sites, but no one has sparked my interest.

How do I get back out there again?

-Patricia (Florida)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:

Dear Patricia,

I applaud your dedication to your children. Too many divorced parents drag their kids through their romantic trials and the poor kids are left shell-shocked by the revolving door of parental figures.

But it sounds like your kids are older and you are ready to treat yourself to a fulfilling adult relationship.

My biggest suggestion is to get involved in the world and you will meet like-minded men.

You might consider starting a business, getting involved with your church or temple or embarking on some community activity that puts you face to face with your peers. Join a gym, a wine tasting or travel club.

Particles in motion attract other particles in motion.

And remember to make yourself attractive. Men and women look for the same traits in mates: health, loyalty, kindness and intelligence. Improve your mind and your body to improve your mood and let the light shine from you.

You are lovable and deserve a great love in this life. And when you really believe that, deep down, you’ll send that message out to the world.

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