I Contracted Psoriasis and Feel Like a Hermit. What Should I Do?

April Braswell

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April Braswell

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Reader Question:
I’m 47. I contracted psoriasis when I was 37. It really mentally and psychically messed with me. I’ve never had problems with dating or sex until then. Now I feel like a hermit – afraid to be seen.
What should I do?

-Rob (Missouri)

April Braswell’s Answer:

Hi Rob,
I am not a licensed physician and don’t know which of the kinds of psoriasis you have. However, it is a condition which as many as 7.5 million have in the United States alone.
The 2008 survey sponsored by the National Psoriasis Foundation indicates you are not alone in how much this chronic condition affects your daily life and romantic life.
However, since it is a noncontagious condition, you have some options available to you to be more engaged in socializing romantically.
Wear more skin concealing clothes. If you can, you might cultivate facial hair to conceal outbreaks if they affect your face.
Psoriasis is a condition, not your identity as a man. Others have grappled with contagious conditions, i.e. AIDS, and managed to embrace intimate relationships.
I would as gently as possibly suggest you talk with your doctor and look into support groups in your area where you could talk with others about living well with psoriasis and managing outbreaks.
Starting to reach out with others and increasing your social activities can then help you to break free from feeling like a hermit and potentially lead to increased dating.
I hope this helps to encourage you. Who you are is what attracts and supports love.

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