Reader Question:
I’m a 62-year-old widower. I was married for 31 years. It’s now four years after my wife’s passing.
I am anxious to begin dating again, but my concern is I was born with a micro penis. I am reluctant to go through the embarrassment and rejection all over again.
Any advice for me?
-Steve (Florida)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:
Dear Steve,
I know men really, really get concerned about their penis. But here’s a little secret: Women don’t care as much as you do.
Secondly, your peer women are probably more concerned with their own changing bodies.
Have you heard about vaginal atrophy that can come with menopause?
Research shows the sexuality of people over 50 often becomes more sensuous and sex lives are often more fulfilling, as more emphasis is placed on affection rather than performance.
To add to that, a new array of devices to enhance sex is on the market. One called We-Vibe is a U-shaped vibrator used during intercourse that stimulates both partners.
At this stage of your life, I would be more concerned about making a healthy relationship choice — a woman who is kind and caring — than making the right sexual choice.
When love is there, the sex takes care of itself.
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