Research Shows Post-Sex Pillow Talk Strengthens Relationships

C. Price

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Pillow talk, or couples chatting away beneath the sheets, does not inherently have to involve sexual activity. However, new research is finding post-sex conversation can be quite beneficial to a relationship, largely due to the love hormone.

Oxytocin is naturally produced by the brain in response to physical contact with another person and has been linked to people having more lasting and fulfilling relationships. It is also commonly called the trust hormone.

What’s most notable about the new research is women who experience orgasm were found to share more about their intimate feelings after sex than those women not having orgasms.

Likewise, women who experience orgasm have been shown to produce more oxytocin than those who do not.

“Women who experience orgasm share more

about their intimate feelings after sex.”

Study author Amanda Denes, of the University of Connecticut, hopes to better understand the role of post-coital interaction between partners and how it impacts the relationship itself.

Couples where each partner experiences orgasm are known to share a stronger emotional bond.

Denes said the practice of opening up to a partners after sex is common, regardless of how long the two have been together. There can be remarkable sharing in a relatively new relationship, she found, while some long-standing couples were seen to have never developed the practice.

“Why were some people sharing their innermost feelings, even when they knew the relationship had not yet reached that level?” Denes said. “What effects would these post-coital disclosures have on relationship satisfaction?”

To examine more closely the relationship between oxytocin and the communicative decisions made by partners, Denes looked at the actual topics discussed post sex and whether or not a female orgasm was achieved.

“To ignore the importance of orgasm would be to ignore a key piece of the pillow-talk puzzle,” she said.


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