Women 3x More Likely to Delay Sex with New Partners

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Some people are quick to jump into bed with a new partner, while others insist on getting to know someone before taking that next step.

In our latest study, we found women are three times more likely than men to wait three months or longer before having sex with someone.

Other options included having sex on the first day, within the first month, within the second month or waiting until marriage.

Besides women, African-Americans and those aged 35 to 44 also are among the most likely groups to put off sex until at least 90 days.

Twenty-two percent of African-American respondents think it’s OK to have sex with someone they met more than three months ago, but only 8 percent of Asian-Americans agreed.

In terms of age, 35- to 44-year-olds are 67 percent more likely than 25- to 34-year-olds to hold off on sex until the three-month mark minimum.

“Women are 3x more likely to wait

three months or longer before having sex.”

Rachel Dack, a licensed clinical professional counselor and relationship coach, said older age groups value taking time to get to know their partner and assessing other factors of relationship commitment and compatibility prior to becoming fully sexually intimate.

“This study illustrates that many people (men and women) are waiting three months or longer to have sex, hopefully diminishing any pressure single people feel to have sex early in the dating process,” she said. “To gain the healthy relationship you might be looking for, it is important to take into account these results, which suggest it is common and absolutely OK to wait to have sex.”

On the flip side, homosexuals and high-wage earners are among the least likely demographics to prolong sex.

One in four straight men and women said they would wait, while just one in 10 gay men and lesbian women would.

According to the results, participants earning more than $125,000 a year have a 58 percent lower likelihood of delaying sex than participants earning less than $25,000 a year.

The study shows marital status and region played the smallest role on the findings.

Divorcees are marginally less likely to put sex on hold compared to married participants (14 percent to 16 percent, respectively), with singles leading the group at 17 percent.

Only one percentage point separated different parts of the country, with those living in the South barely being the most likely to wait at 17 percent.

Meanwhile those in the Midwest tracked at 16 percent, and those in the Northeast and West came in at 15 percent.

The study surveyed 1,080 respondents over the course of three weeks, balancing responses by age, gender, income, race, sexuality and other factors in order to accurately represent the U.S. population. The study has a margin of error of +/- 2.8%.

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