10 New Rules For Posting Dating Profile Pictures

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10 New Rules for Posting Dating Profile Pictures

Julie Spira

Written by: Julie Spira

Julie Spira

Julie Spira is a leading online dating expert and founder of CyberDatingExpert.com. She’s the bestselling author of The Perils of Cyber-Dating and creates irresistible profiles for singles.

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Posting photos on social media sites and on your online dating profiles has become one of the top favorite features for singles.

Perhaps this is the reason Facebook chose to purchase Instagram for $1 billion. It’s a big number to swallow, so if you’re posting the wrong photos, you can kiss that digital hunk goodbye because he will have moved on to find another pretty face.

With this in mind, it’s time to revise the rules for posting online dating profile photos.

1. Do hire a photographer.

Or find a friend with a great camera.

Is investing $100 to $150 in a photographer worth it? I think so, if you’re hoping to find someone special to date or mate.

Dating is expensive for both men and women, but if you can’t find an extra $100, then grab a friend with a digital camera or a high-end Galaxy phone to help with the cause.

Snap about 100 photos and pick out three to five of the best ones for your dating profile.

2. Don’t post selfies.

While it may be fun and fine to post a selfie on Instagram or Facebook, I say ditch the selfies on your online dating profile. We know the lighting isn’t the best and there’s a narcissistic tone to posting selfies.

While you’re at it, avoid those goofy shots taken in the mirror. They really do look ridiculous.

3. Do post close-ups.

A man will visualize himself with you in his life as he gazes at your profile photos. He’ll expect to see a happy-looking woman in a close-up shot that isn’t blurry to add to his life.

Posting faraway shots will set him to the default position of thinking you’re not attractive.

Believe it or not, posting a close-up photo will send a message that you’re a confident person. That’s a real turn-on for a guy.

4. Don’t post a primary photo holding your pets.

Men fear meeting a cat woman online. Likewise, women wonder if men are sleeping in bed with their pets at night when they see him hugging his favorite pug.

Posting a primary photo with your cat or dog should be nixed from your dating profile.

Leave those details to the multiple choice questions, where you can include if you have pets or not.

5. Do select three outfits in different colors.

Studies have shown wearing red will attract a man. If red isn’t your color, try hot pink, royal blue or purple.

Just remember to ditch the little black dress. Otherwise your profile will look like everyone else’s and get lost in Internet Heaven.

“A picture is worth more

than a thousand words online.”

6. Don’t post nostalgic old photos.

Posting photos more than five years old should be saved for #ThrowBackThursday on Facebook.

The biggest complaint I hear from singles is they’ve been unable to recognize many dates when they meet in person. Starting a relationship based on a major misrepresentation will backfire, period.

7. Do update your photos weekly.

I know you’re hanging out on Facebook and Instagram and have enough new photos worth sharing.

By changing the order of your existing photos and adding a new primary photo, your profile will typically rank higher in a search. It also gives someone who had viewed your profile another chance to take a glance at your profile.

8. Don’t post more than 10 photos. 

Although I believe three to five photos is the digital sweet spot for dating profiles. If you have some memorable travel pictures you can’t resist sharing, go ahead and add a few more to your profile.

Posting more than 10 photos is actually a turn-off. If you take your relationship offline, there will be plenty of time to go down memory lane with your new digital sweetheart.

9. Do include captions under your photos.

Many sites, including JDate, OkCupid and Match.com, now have a place for you to add captions about your photos. Make your captions fun and flirty to add personality to your profile.

Do yourself a favor and add in the date the photos were taken. This will give some comfort to your potential date on how recent your photos really are.

10. Don’t exploit your children.

While hiding the fact that you’re a parent is a major mistake, posting pictures with your kids shouldn’t be on your Internet dating profile.

Your profile should be all about you! Save family shots for your closest friends to view on Facebook.

At the end of the digital day, a picture is worth more than a thousand words when it comes to finding love online.

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