14 Reasons Why You Dont Have Any Success With Women

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14 Reasons Why You Don’t Have Any Success with Women

Alex Matlock

Written by: Alex Matlock

Alex Matlock

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Men always give me a million reasons for why they don’t have any success with women…they’re full of excuses or explanations or existential concerns. As a dating coach and seduction expert, I’ve heard it all.

More often than not, what they say to me is never the actual reason behind their inability to succeed with women. It’s always an excuse.

This being said, the following 14 things about yourself are the real truth behind your failure with women.

If you find yourself relating to a lot of these, seriously consider doing something about it. If you find hardly any apply to you, give me a call and let’s go out this weekend.

1. You are too weak.

That’s right. The first and most important reason is your weakness.

You do not have the balls needed for sex to happen. You fear rejection and this stops you from interacting with hundreds of potential chicks.

You have problems grasping the true reality of the situation. The more chicks you approach, the more you get rejected. But the more chicks you approach, the more you get laid!

2. You aren’t proud of yourself.

You’ve somehow managed to come to the conclusion that you’re not the guy women want. Instead of working toward gaining some self-respect, you are OK with this terrible existence.

If you truly feel this way about yourself, how do you expect any woman on this planet to view you differently?

3. You don’t care about the way you look.

You believe a man is not a woman, thus he should not spend time in front of the mirror to “fix himself up.”

You think guys who do their hair and dress well are gay, but you seem to miss the fact that they are always leaving the venue with a girl.

You somehow know women don’t really care about your physical appearance, but once again you are oblivious to the fact guys who work out and look fit are leaving the venue with a girl much more often than you are.

4. You’re a quitter.

The first time you get rejected in a night is also the last time because you’ve already given up. Instead of trying and trying (until you succeed), you quickly become #2 (and never succeed).

5. You say no to alcohol.

You haven’t yet realized that a moderate use of alcohol is incredibly useful in social situations. Even the most socially awkward dude can lose his inhibitions and interact with women.

You say no to alcohol and no to chicks who drink because you’ve got principles – while you may have that, you certainly don’t have any women in your bed.

6. All the girls you meet are from your tiny social circle.

You fail to notice the best way to meet women is to actually go out into the real world (or at least the swiping world) and approach them with a good opening line.

Every social circle will have a VERY limited number of potential prospects. So get out there and broaden your social and romantic horizons.

“Having game is about

understanding society.”

7. You are desperate for female attention.

You rarely get the chance to be in the presence of a woman. When you do, you do the dumbest s**t possible.

You lean in when you’re talking to her, you text/call her 10 times more often than she does, you freak out when she doesn’t immediately text or call you back, you ask for permission, you show these signs of neediness, you lose her because of these dating mistakes.

8. You’re unable to connect with women.

Although you’ve got a decent age, you’ve failed to realize the best way to connect with women is emotionally.

Instead of sharing an interesting story and talking about how it made you feel, you try to use reason and logic, whilst explaining how the country got in or out of the recession.

You feel frustrated that you can’t understand women or that they just don’t get you.

9. You don’t know how to get a girl interested in you.

Because you don’t understand women, you find it incredibly hard to get them interested in you.

You don’t know how to make them want you, and this becomes increasingly difficult as time progresses. This is probably because…

10. You’re not interesting.

If all you do is go to work/school, come home and sleep, then it’s probably evident that all you talk about is the only thing you do (work/school).

You’ve failed to realize interesting people do interesting things, thus having a lot of interesting s**t to talk about.

There are no real excuses for not being interesting, or at least appearing to be.

11. You do not understand humor.

You think dropping random jokes in randomly inappropriate situations is the way to make people laugh.

You even misinterpret the importance of making a girl laugh, as in, “Why would she need to have any fun when she’s with me?”

You don’t understand that good humor is spontaneous and situational. It’s hardly ever prepared at home, and you also miss the fact that laughter always makes a girl feel good.

12. You take girls to dinner.

You haven’t yet realized that dinner dates are never a step closer to getting what you want.

Apart from the fact this “dating scenario” creates a lot of unnecessary pressure on both parties, it also stops you from making some real moves, such as touching when she’s on the other side of the table.

Unfortunately, you’ve again failed to realize the importance of alcohol.

Instead of helping this social awkwardness with something that loosens a person’s inhibitions, you’ve decided to counter the effects of the booze by throwing some food over it.

Don’t you think it would be better to take girls out for drinks?

13. You’re cheap.

You don’t take girls to dinner not because you understand that taking girls to dinner decreases the chances of getting physical and scoring, but because you’re a cheap bastard!

I agree it’s never a good idea to buy girls drinks, but only when they shamelessly request it. In every other scenario, you just come off as cheap.

14. You don’t have game.

You don’t understand why the above examples are stopping you from meeting and succeeding with beautiful women.

Having game is not just about understanding women. It’s about understanding the society you live in and fitting well into those social norms.

You need to adapt yourself to what society desires (fashion, music, interests, technology), otherwise you’re just going to be the weird guy who doesn’t fit in.

I’m not saying to become Mr. Normal, because it’s always much better to have some outstanding and unique interests.

However, not having any friends, not having any common interests with people, not listening to the music people listen to just tells everyone, male and female, that you do not fit in with normal society.

Think about it: If you have nothing to talk about because nothing interests you, you are doomed to a life of loneliness.

Finally, not being into Justin Beiber doesn’t mean you don’t fit in. There are just as many people who feel the same way.

However, being into and only into The Spit (some freaky, howling bad rock band from the ’80s that only had one album) is.

Guys, do you see yourself making these mistakes? How are you going to use these tips to start actually succeeding with women?

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