3 Reasons You Won’t Make It From Booty Call to Girlfriend

“How do I go from booty call to girlfriend?” Yes, this is a real question posed to me, and I found it very interesting to say the least.

OK let me preface this by saying this is not a good strategy if you want to be taken seriously as girlfriend or wife material.

Yeah I know you may know one or two people who it’s worked for, but please know that it’s not the majority.

Here are a few reasons why it’s not a good strategy:

I get that women want to have sex, too. Many don’t mind being the booty call … at first. However, the mere fact that the question was asked tells me someone wanted more, and that’s not abnormal.

Once you take a man to a place of purely sexual energy, odds are he won’t be trying to get to know you beyond that.

Because substance is what makes a guy invest in you and want to move to the next level with you, you can’t lead with sex and then wonder why he doesn’t care about your substance.

Some guys may get a little sprung and want more, but most won’t!

Men are very egotistical creatures, and we like to feel like our woman takes effort to get with. We like to feel like we earned her love because if we earned it, then we know it won’t be easy for someone else to get it (at least we like to think so).

If you come to the table immediately offering sex as the entree, then even though as much as we want to believe “you don’t usually do this but,” most mature men don’t believe it.

Even if you are sexually liberal and free and all of that, men still place a high value on sex with women, and they are also territorial about it.

Why do you think we go crazy if we find out our girlfriend or wife had sex with someone else? Yeah, my point exactly.

You can’t agree to play the game and then want to change the rules half way through. You told him you were OK with a purely sexual agreement, and now you want a full-fledged relationship. FLAG ON THE PLAY!

What you probably don’t know is the whole time you’re playing booty call, he is getting to know some other woman on a deeper level.

You started changing the rules and wanting to stay over, go out in public and talk more during the day, but when he doesn’t oblige, you get an attitude and want to terminate the terms.

This doesn’t make him want to make you his girlfriend. It makes you look like trouble, that you’re dishonest and that you like to play games.

Side note: Mature men see this coming a mile away, and thus don’t put themselves in these situations just so they can get sex.

Ladies, I understand you don’t want to be “judged” because you want to have unattached sex, but the truth is you will be. You can’t say you want to be a booty call and then want to change the rules once you catch feelings.

If you want to be a girlfriend, then make those intentions known upfront, but don’t present yourself as a booty call and think you can just graduate to girlfriend whenever you want to.

Be honest with yourself and the person you’re dealing with and things will probably work out a lot better.