5 Reasons Why Women Flake On You

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5 Reasons Why Women Flake on You

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Guys usually get frustrated when they expect to go out on a date with a woman and then she flakes at the last minute.

There are times when there is a legitimate reason why a woman can’t show up on a date, but that is usually rare.

In most cases, women will flake on men because they just want attention and an ego boost.

Below I explain five reasons why women really flake on you.

1. She has a boyfriend.

Sometimes you will meet a girl, talk to her and exchange numbers. You think since the conversation went so well, you will be seeing her again real soon.

You call her to try to set up a date, but you either don’t hear back or you make a plan to meet up and she backs out at the last minute.

Sometimes a girl with flake on you because she already has a boyfriend. She gave you her number because she just wanted your attention and likes seeing random guys call her up so she can get an ego boost.

She never really had any intentions of seeing you again because she has a boyfriend already.

2. You weren’t her first choice.

Most of the women you approach are getting offers from guys to go on dates all the time. So if you go out and approach a woman today, she most likely had multiple other guys approach her before you did.

The problem is a woman will give out her number to a lot of men, but out of those men, there is one who she really likes.

So let’s say she gave you and six other guys her number. That means she now has some juggling to do with so many guys trying to go out with her.

Let’s say you call her and y’all make a plan to go out on a date on Saturday night. She agreed to go out with you, but what she really wanted to happen was for the other guy to call her because she liked him more than she liked you.

Now what usually happens is the guy she really likes calls her after you already made plans with her and says, “Hey, I want to see you Saturday night.”

She ends up seeing him and flaking out on you because you were not her first choice – he was.

“If a woman forgot she was supposed to

see you, she has absolutely no interest.”

3. You were her backup plan.

This almost sounds like “You weren’t her first choice,” but it’s a little different.

Sometimes you will meet a woman and she will give you her number, but she already has intentions of flaking on you if nothing else better comes along.

This doesn’t even have to be another man in the picture. It can be anything.

For example, if you meet a woman and she agrees to see you on Friday, she is just using you as someone to entertain her if she ends up having nothing else better to do on Friday.

If her friend calls her and tells her to come with her to a party on Friday, she is going to flake on you. If she meets another man who she likes and wants to take her out on Friday, she is going to flake on you.

You were her backup plan from the beginning.

4. She is scared to go out with you.

Sometimes a girl will flake on you because she is just scared to go out on a date with anyone.

These are the type of girls who are not comfortable in their own skin and are socially awkward. These girls don’t really know what they want, so they will plan a date with you and then flake.

These are the girls who will say they will meet you at a restaurant and just not show up. They won’t even call you to cancel.

I actually had a girl I went on a date with admit to me that she was about to flake because she hasn’t been on a date in a while and was nervous to see me.

5. She forgot she planned to see you.

I actually think this is the worst reason for a woman to flake on you.

If a woman forgot she was supposed to see you, that means she has absolutely no interest in you and was just using you for attention.

I was on a date with this girl when her phone rang. She laughed and said, “Oh my God, I totally forgot I planned on seeing this guy today.”

The guy who she was supposed to be out with at the exact same time she was out with me was calling her.

Guys, has a woman ever flaked on you? What was her excuse? How did you handle it?

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