Are You Dating Alone

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Are You Dating Alone?

Jess Carbino

Written by: Jess Carbino

Jess Carbino

Jess Carbino is a Ph.D. candidate in sociology at UCLA. Her research focuses on online dating and relationships. Jess is a contributor to The Huffington Post and has been quoted in multiple major news outlets, including The New Yorker, TIME and New York Magazine. See more of Jess at

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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The state of our dating union is strong.

While President Obama did not make this announcement in his State of the Union address, JDate and Christian Mingle’s recent report surveying 2,600 single Americans indicates online dating in the United States is a common, socially accepted practice.

For example, 85 percent of survey respondents state online dating is a socially acceptable behavior.

At the same time, we seem to be “dating alone.”

While individuals are certainly not going on dates by themselves, they are relying less on social networks to find prospective dates.

Approximately 88 percent of respondents claim online dating is a better way to meet a partner than through family and 78 percent of respondents agree online dating is a better way to meet a partner than through friends.

Although family and friends are the principal means by which individuals meet their romantic partners, the perception for many online daters is their reality.

Individuals not only perceive their family and friends to be a secondary source for connections, but they are also less likely to seek their input when engaging in their preferred means to meet a partner: creating an online dating profile.

“Educated individuals find online

dating to be a better method.”

Approximately 20 percent of women and 14 percent of men ask friends for help when creating an online dating profile.

However, only a very small percentage of both men and women ask for help from family and 79 percent of respondents do not ask anyone for help creating an online dating profile.

Moreover, the number of individuals who didn’t ask anyone for help increased from 75 percent to 79 percent and the number of individuals who asked their friends for input on their online dating profile declined from 23 percent to 17 percent in the last year.

So why are people dating alone?

Beyond dealing with a friend’s disappointment when an introduction does not result in a love connection or dealing with your aunt Esther’s concerns that you will become a spinster, more educated individuals, who are the primary users of online dating sites, may find online dating to be a better method to find romantic partners for several reasons.

More educated individuals tend to live farther away from family and friends. Friends and family may also have a limited pool of contacts that individuals have already exhausted.

Theoretically, individuals are expanding their social circles through online dating and using sites and dating apps, such as Tinder, Hinge and Coffee Meets Bagel, that allow them to see mutual connections.

However, the data suggests online dating may provide more opportunities to limit than include preexisting social connections in the dating process.

To date alone or not to date alone? That is the question.

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