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What are the dating rules? What is the order of things that should happen while dating?
These are common questions I see from my dating clients.
In an ideal world, this would be the format:
Feel a connection and arrange more time together to get to know each other more.
Choose something informal for a first date like coffee and a walk around a gallery or exhibition. Cinemas or theater dates aren’t good because you don’t get time to speak to each other.
At the end of the date, go in for a kiss on the cheek and a hug.
This includes a romantic meal somewhere nice with a more intimate setting and more getting to know each other. End the evening with a more passionate kiss.
This could be a meal at one of your houses with a few drinks and a nice meal. If you both want, the date could lead to the bedroom, where there will be fireworks and passion.
“I have a little project for you:
Write your own rulebook.”
A few weeks down the road, introduce each other to friends and officially become a couple.
This is a big step.
Sometime between the six- to 12-month stage, you might begin to discuss living together.
Sometime between year two and three, if you are so inclined, look to buy a home together or think about a civil union or marriage.
If we all followed these rules, there would be no need for all those wonderful dating websites and my job as a dating coach would be made obsolete.
I followed the rules up to stage four but then sped things up. My partner and I moved in within three months and were married in less than eight months!
Other people are together for years before they move in together. Some people sleep together on the first date or sometimes before they even know each other’s names!
If you feel you are being rushed, make sure your date knows what your rules are.
There is nothing wrong with changing, adapting and merging two people’s ideals and outlooks.
Nothing is written in stone. However, the key thing is to communicate your feelings.
In my dating life, when I was playing the field, I always made a joke about the “Third Date Rule.”
I declared before meeting someone that I never slept with a new date before the third date.
This whittled out the guys who only wanted one-night stands and established what sort of guy I was.
Needless to say, I didn’t always stick to the rule, but if I did end up sleeping with them on the first night, they felt important that I’d broken my rule for them!
I have a little project for you: Write your own rulebook.
Don’t feel like you need to email your rulebook to any potential dates, but keeping the principles in your mind will help you with your expectations.
What are you going to write in your personal dating rulebook? I’d love to hear what you have to say!
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