Senior Dating

Who Pays on a Baby Boomer Date?

April Braswell

Written by: April Braswell

April Braswell

April Braswell is a senior dating expert, dating coach and professional dating profile writer. She leads dating, relationship and communication skills workshops throughout California.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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When it comes to senior dating, both men and women are wondering what is the modern singles expectation at the end of a first date?

Part of it depends on which age cluster you are in.

  • 45 years+
  • Over 50 mate seekers
  • 55–early sexagenarian singles

Most men born in the 1950s, 1960s and 1970s are still inclined to be chivalrous. They were raised on the behavior that a man pays for dates.

Total cost of dating.

For goodness sake, ladies, if the man you are out a date with reaches for his wallet and wants to pay for your date, let him.

However, always bring some money with you so you’re not caught shorthanded.

When you two are only looking at the cost of the date and pondering who should pay for the date, you are not looking at the total cost of dating (TCOD).


“Men who demonstrate providing

abilities create that initial attraction.”

Initial attraction depends on gender.

Gentlemen, the ladies you are dating are aiming to appeal to what creates initial attraction for men — visual chemical attraction. That means women are aiming to look their best to get your attention.

A woman who wants to look her best will likely get her hair done, do her makeup just so, invest in a manicure and pedicure and possibly even purchase a new first date ensemble.

Women’s TCOD is often in the appearance side of things.

However, cultivating attraction in women is different than initial attraction for men, where it starts with looks and appearance.

It may sound old fashioned, but women do still find a man with a plan who wants to provide for her at least somewhat attractive. Men who demonstrate some providing abilities can certainly create that initial attraction, which leads to more second dates.

When you‘re on your second date and looking at a third date together, you are well on your way to a mature midlife relationship.

What do you think about paying for dates and the cost of modern dating?

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