Whenever I see a happy couple, I always ask how they met.
These days, more and more people are meeting online, but should you put all your eggs into one digital basket?
On Saturday night, I dined with a happy couple who were celebrating their seven-month wedding anniversary.
As newlyweds, they were gushing with love and excitement. It’s the type of new love that is so contagious you just want to gulp it all in.
I wanted to share their heartfelt with you.
I asked them where they met. She replied with, “We were both members of an online dating site, but we didn’t meet online.” Sound confusing? A little bit.
I asked them to elaborate and he told me the story of how he was going on a blind date with someone he had met on OkCupid.
While waiting for his date to arrive, a woman approached him and asked him, “Are you Michael?”
She too was meeting her OkCupid date for the first time at the same restaurant. John replied with, “No I’m not, but I can be if you like?”
He invited her to join him while they waited for their respective dates and they both laughed that they were waiting for blind dates from OkCupid.
The two connected and then made a huge mistake: They never shared their contact information.
Since it was inappropriate to slip her his card, John went home after a disappointing date with someone else.
She also went home after her disappointing online date.
“Don’t let someone you have chemistry
with online or offline pass you by.”
The end, or was it?
I’m a big fan of computer algorithms and here’s why: Ten days later OkCupid sent John an email with some suggested Quiver dates the computer thought he’d like.
There she was – his pre-date with the girl he really liked.
He immediately emailed her with enthusiasm to reconnect, only to find out she also was disappointed they didn’t exchange numbers.
The two went on a date, fell in love, got engaged and are now happily married.
Does this mean online dating works or doesn’t work?
It means you must cast a wide net if you’re single. Tell your friends to fix you up, join an online dating site and make sure you have an irresistible dating profile.
Read your emails and look at the suggestions the site recommends and respond in a timely fashion.
If you meet someone offline, there’s a great chance, if they are single, they also have an online dating profile.
If you don’t exchange phone numbers, see if you can find them in a search online if you know what town they live in and their approximate age.
See if you can find them on Facebook or Instagram and say hello. Nothing pushy. Just check if the interest is there.
Know that offline connections have a digital element to them. Don’t let someone you have chemistry with online or offline pass you by.
