Why You Shouldn’t Give Up on Online Dating

We’ve all heard the expression, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” In general, things that are worth it take time to build.

So why do you think Prince Charming (or Princess Charming?) will simply come knocking on your door at exactly the moment you’re looking for true love?

The process of finding the right partner is not something that should be rushed.

Many people sign up for an online dating site or go to a speed dating event expecting to find their “one and only” simply by signing up or logging in.

Unfortunately, it’s not that easy and it will take some time.

As with most things in life that you want badly enough, you’ll have to put some work into it. But don’t worry — all the effort isn’t for naught.

I was on and off JDate for years. It got me a few relationships here and there, but it took a lot of time to meet the right person.

Throughout the online dating process, you learn what you like and what you don’t like in a match.

“Would you give up a job search after

a month if you really needed a job?”

For example, one short JDate relationship years ago taught me that even if a guy says he’s romantic, it doesn’t mean he necessarily is.

That is, unless you call romantic being in bed at 10 p.m. every night without even making an exception for a casual game of Scrabble. Yes, we broke up over his refusal to stay up “late” to play Scrabble with me, among other things.

I was just so eager to be in a relationship that I overlooked it for a while. And JDate certainly gave me my fair share of awkward yet laughable experiences.

There was the time I went on a date with a guy who said to me, “I have something to tell you.” You just met me – what could you possibly have to tell me?!

He then said, “I think we went on a date six years ago.” Things went downhill from there. I didn’t like him the first time, and I certainly didn’t like him the second!

For the people I give “A Little Nudge” to, I don’t let them quit online dating after just one month. It’s not giving yourself a fair chance.

Even today, many single people are still warming up to the whole concept of online dating, so maybe they just need time to get acclimated to the scene.

Would you give up a job search after a month if you really needed a job? That’s what I thought.

As Carrie from “Sex and the City” (one of my favorite shows) once said, “People go to casinos for the same reason they go on blind dates — hoping to hit the jackpot. But mostly you just wind up broke or alone in a bar.”