How To Kiss A Girl And Turn Her On

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How to Kiss a Girl and Turn Her On

Kara Pound

Written by: Kara Pound

Kara Pound

Kara Pound is an award-winning journalist based in St. Augustine, Florida. She holds a bachelor's degree in journalism from Flagler College. Her work has been published in INKED, Natural Awakenings, Design Aglow, Memphis Flyer, Jacksonville Magazine, E/Environmental Magazine, and dozens more. Check out some of Kara's work at

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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German author Emil Ludwig once said, “The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial one in any love story.” This pretty much sums up how I feel about kissing. A kiss is not an obligation — it’s not the customary way to end a date. A kiss should mean something. It should have feelings and emotion behind it. If you are looking for a gentle way of saying, “That date did nothing for me, but you seem like a really nice person,” then hug her and move on.

I can tell you about all of my first kisses with men who meant something to me, but I can’t remember kisses in the case of an empty connection. Kissing should turn the other person on. Guys, if you’re willing to learn how to kiss a girl and make her toes curl, then pay attention:

1. It’s not just about the lips.

Sure, the goal is to put your lips on her lips, but there’s so much more to that. Think about her hands, the small of her back — her booty even. Just think beyond those pink lips that adorn her face.

2. Say something.

Before moving in for the piece de resistance, whisper something like, “Tonight has been completely perfect” or “Do you know what would make tonight even better?” and then lean in and pucker up.

3. Location, location, location.

Instead of awkwardly waiting for the end-of-the-night-I’m-standing-in-front-of-your-apartment kiss, take her for a short stroll in a neighborhood park (with lighting and other people, of course) and smooch her there. Then you have the whole walk/car ride home to hold hands and think about kissing again.

Whether it’s a first kiss or a 5,000th kiss, make it more than just the obligatory action of putting your lips on hers. Make it about the emotion and feelings you have for each other. Make it more than just a kiss!

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