How to Kiss a Girl and Turn Her On

German author Emil Ludwig once said, “The decision to kiss for the first time is the most crucial one in any love story.” This pretty much sums up how I feel about kissing. A kiss is not an obligation — it’s not the customary way to end a date. A kiss should mean something. It should have feelings and emotion behind it. If you are looking for a gentle way of saying, “That date did nothing for me, but you seem like a really nice person,” then hug her and move on.

I can tell you about all of my first kisses with men who meant something to me, but I can’t remember kisses in the case of an empty connection. Kissing should turn the other person on. Guys, if you’re willing to learn how to kiss a girl and make her toes curl, then pay attention:

Sure, the goal is to put your lips on her lips, but there’s so much more to that. Think about her hands, the small of her back — her booty even. Just think beyond those pink lips that adorn her face.

Before moving in for the piece de resistance, whisper something like, “Tonight has been completely perfect” or “Do you know what would make tonight even better?” and then lean in and pucker up.

Instead of awkwardly waiting for the end-of-the-night-I’m-standing-in-front-of-your-apartment kiss, take her for a short stroll in a neighborhood park (with lighting and other people, of course) and smooch her there. Then you have the whole walk/car ride home to hold hands and think about kissing again.

Whether it’s a first kiss or a 5,000th kiss, make it more than just the obligatory action of putting your lips on hers. Make it about the emotion and feelings you have for each other. Make it more than just a kiss!