Reader Question:
I am a 20-year-old male and I haven’t been in a solid relationship since high school. I met this girl at a get-together. The next day, I found her on Facebook and told her I really hoped I would get to see her again. I got a positive response.
This girl left an incredibly lasting impression on me. I’m just kind of tired of me trying to play the trial-and-error game, and I want to at least get up to the first date right.
Is it too early to ask for her number? How can I not sound boring via text/Facebook?
-Chad (Florida)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:
Dear Chad,
The trick is to avoid getting into a text/Facebook relationship at all. At the same time, you have to earn her trust enough for her to give up her number.
Do you have friends in common? Chat about how you know them. Did she mention anything in your meeting where you can pick up the thread of that conversation?
When women first meet a guy, they want two things:
1. They want to be complimented for their brains and talent instead of their looks.
2. They want a guy to make their life easier.
What does she need? A running partner? A homework helper? Can you score tickets to something she couldn’t get on her own?
Ask yourself how you can make her life better and she’ll be more likely to trust you.
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