I’m 5 Feet 8 Inches. Is Height the Most Important Thing?

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Reader Question:

Height is a killer for a guy just under 5 feet 8 inches. Most online dating sites don’t allow the guy to filter out women based on the women’s requirement for the guy.

For most women, is height the most important thing?

-Scott (Illinois)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

It’s not the most important thing, but being a short guy does make it more difficult for you. However, there are plenty of women willing to date short men, and there are a few things you can do to increase your traction online.

While there may not be a function to search the woman’s height requirement exclusively, your site may have a “mutual match” searching system that only shows you people whom you both match each other’s requirements (Match.com has this).

You can also stick to doing online dating on phone apps like Tinder that don’t require you to put your height.

Try to avoid pictures of you with taller friends, which would accentuate your height, or next to things that will give a reference to your height (cars, children).

Finally, you can limit your search to women who are more petite than yourself. You should have better odds with them as many women just care that a man be taller than herself.


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