I’m Taking Things Slowly. Is This the Right Way to Play This?

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Reader Question:

I met this woman eight months ago. Ever since the first meeting, we have been able to talk for hours on end.

I asked our mutual friend about her and he told me she had an awful breakup. Knowing this, I thought I would take it slow, since she probably wasn’t feeling like jumping back into dating again.

Is this the right way to play this?

-Jake (Connecticut)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

Pretty much. Just remember one important thing: There’s a difference between taking it slow versus being nice and never making a move.

If you take it slow and do it properly, you should be good to go. She should know you’re interested but respectful. If you interpret taking it slow as just being a friend, you may find yourself cornered into the friend zone.

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