I’m Talking to Two Women Online. How Do I Handle This?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I am talking to two women who I met on a dating site. I have been texting one very consistently who I know I like, and I have a date with her soon. The other has been seldom.

I know I could achieve the same quality of a relationship from both. Both are very attractive. I do not want to hurt anyone.

How do I handle this?

-Jeremy (Hawaii)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:


You have a right to date as many women as you like as long as you are honest about it. Dating is supposed to be a kind of audition for a relationship anyway.

I would advise you don’t have sex with either woman until you are ready to pursue a serious relationship.

In the meantime, stop texting and start dating! Your decision will be much easier to make when you get out from behind a smartphone.

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