Is it OK to Take a New Date to a Spot You Went to with an Ex?

Nick Slade

Written by: Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Nick spent 20 years in the dating scene before marriage. He has always been the guy friends would come to for advice on relationships, and he developed a knack for giving helpful insights. After college, Nick was a disc jockey for a few years, when the love generation was still alive, so Nick has a lot of relevant experience to draw from when it comes to every aspect of dating, falling in love and screwing things up. He holds Bachelor's degree in humanities and a slew of master’s credits in journalism. Nick is a news junkie and tries to keep up on the latest non-fiction when he has time. He has published two books on how to win at dating and relationships.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Every date should be unique and fresh if you want to make it special. You can’t avoid every night club or restaurant you ever went to with a previous girlfriend, but you do need to avoid sliding a new girl into the exact same slot your ex once filled.

If everything is the same except the girl, then you might be reliving your former life and missing out on the special qualities of your new girlfriend.

Make it a point to not take all of your ladies to the same place for a first date. Start each new girl out with something new and different. Your life has changed and your girlfriend has changed, so your routine has to change as well.

You don’t want to run into your ex when you’re with your new lady and have the ex ask her, “So, did he take you to the Olive Garden on your first date, share your first kiss by the statue in the park, and then make love to you in his old tree house behind his dad’s house?” If she nailed it, you’re screwed.

It’s really not so much the particular places you end up going, but it’s the routines you need to avoid. Make each date as special and unique as the girl you are with.

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