Reader Question:
This girl (29 years old) is my teacher’s assistant and two years older to me. While we walk from campus to my home, she will always touch me, nudge me or rub her body to mine.
I asked if she has a boyfriend and said she is kind of seeing someone. She asked my status and I said I was single.
I try to call her but she does not pick up. Then I ask if she would like to get lunch/dinner with me sometime. She says she is not avoiding me but does not like to talk over the phone. She also says she would love to continue our friendship over a meal but at a time she is not exhausted or busy.
Is she flirting, or is she serious?
-Al (U.S.A)
Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:
Dear Al,
This gal is messing with you. She doesn’t know what she wants.
She may be keeping you as a backup man in case her current guy lets her down. Or, she may be using you to boost her own ego.
I’d say move on. This girl isn’t worth it. And this game playing will drive you crazy!
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