There’s This Girl I Like. How Should I Approach Her?

Gina Stewart

Written by: Gina Stewart

Gina Stewart

Gina is the owner of Expert Online Dating. As an online dating consultant, she helps men and women maximize their online dating experiences to get more dates. You can visit her website,, for more information or to contact her.

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Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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Reader Question:

I’m a 16-year old-male in high school. There’s this girl I like who many of my friends say I should just ask out. I’m not sure if I’m really her type because I’m not the most outspoken person.

She hangs out with a lot of people, guys and girls, so I never really know how to approach her and try to get a connection with her.

I’d like any advice as to how I should approach her and if there’s anything specific I should try to tell her.

-Jorge (New York)

Gina Stewart’s Answer:

If she’s always around people, start by just trying to make eye contact and smile. Try to figure which way she walks from class to class to give yourself chances to get around her and walk with her.

If you ever see her alone, you need to take advantage of that opportunity to make conversation. Ask her questions about what she thinks about things (teachers or classes or activities) and listen.

Once she seems responsive, then you can ask her out and it will feel more natural and easy.

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