Why I Stay Home On Saturday Nights

Men's Dating

Why I Stay Home on Saturday Nights

David Wygant

Written by: David Wygant

David Wygant

David Wygant is an internationally-renowned dating and relationship coach, author and speaker. To find out more about David and all of his dating and relationship-building products, visit www.davidwygant.com.

Edited by: Lillian Castro

Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles and reports have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement.

Discuss This! Discuss This!
Advertiser Disclosure

Think about that for a second: Is being alone on a Saturday night really that bad?

Actually, it’s really one of my favorite nights, and I am going to explain why.

The typical Saturday night is full of hope and wonderment. But it’s really full of chasing the night.

Saturday night is the end of the week. (All right, I know there’s Sunday, but if you think about it, in a single person’s mind, Saturday night is the last night of the week they can actually go and meet somebody or go on another bad date.)

What happens is people will go out with that mentality in mind.

They’ll chase the night, and that’s why there’s always such a desperate energy on a Saturday night.

If you look around any bar, restaurant or party, you’ll see people searching, looking, wanting, desiring, but not connecting. You’ll see groups of men looking around, walking around, checking out women, but not really talking to them.

You’ll see women searching the room, getting hit on by a bunch of men they are not attracted to and then finally just hovering in a group in the corner to protect each other from the annoying guys that are coming.

That doesn’t sound fun to me.

To me, Saturday night should be all about self-exploration, spending time with yourself or doing something you love.

If you feel social but don’t want to go out, it’s also a great time to do some online dating. Saturday night is one of the best nights to be online, and here’s why:

You are doing the exact opposite of what other people are doing. Do you think you’re alone? Do you think you’re the only person that’s frustrated and annoyed at the Saturday night bad date or the Saturday night chase?

 

“I don’t need to entertain.

I don’t need to chase somebody.”

Well, you’re not.

What I love to do on a Saturday night is go out to my favorite little sushi bar or I’ll go to a local market where there are group tables. I’ll sit there by myself and have a nice meal. I’ll enjoy myself, maybe converse with somebody else who’s there by themselves and just enjoy the night.

I’ll reflect a little bit about what went on during the week, reflect a little bit about how I’m feeling in life, think a little bit about where my life is — just enjoy my time with myself.

I don’t need to entertain. I don’t need to chase somebody. I don’t need to do anything I’m not comfortable with.

By 8 or 9 p.m., I’ll get home. I’ll then get online on a dating site and I’ll check out who else is online. I’ll send some emails out to any women online at the moment, because I’m sure they’re in the same mood I am.

And that’s the really cool thing about online dating — you have the opportunity to really meet people you wouldn’t in a bar or club. Not only that, it’s a great backup plan when the party doesn’t work out, when the bar doesn’t deliver or when you don’t meet somebody at Starbucks.

I love the online backup plan — it’s always there when you need it. And my favorite site is eHarmony — the people there are really relationship-minded. So when I’m looking to really connect with someone emotionally, I log in there first.

And that’s why chasing Saturday night is no fun.

I’m a healthy person. I enjoy going to sleep early. I like waking up and enjoying my Sunday, going to the farmers market. I’m all about really just enjoying my life. I’ve been there, done that when it comes down to going out on Saturday nights and chasing the night, and I don’t want to do that anymore.

Plus, I look at all the people I’ve met chasing the night. I’ve never really met anybody of high quality.

So the next time a friend of yours asks you what you’re doing Saturday night, instead of agreeing to their plans, send them a text and say:

“I’m going to enjoy my night at home. I’m going to take myself out for a little meal. I’m going to come home, I’m going to relax, I’m going to rent a movie, and I’m going to check who’s dating online. You know, just enjoy being with me.”

Advertiser Disclosure

DatingAdvice.com is a free online resource that offers valuable content and comparison services to users. To keep this resource 100% free, we receive compensation from many of the offers listed on the site. Along with key review factors, this compensation may impact how and where products appear across the site (including, for example, the order in which they appear). DatingAdvice.com does not include the entire universe of available offers. Editorial opinions expressed on the site are strictly our own and are not provided, endorsed, or approved by advertisers.

Our Editorial Review Policy

Our site is committed to publishing independent, accurate content guided by strict editorial guidelines. Before articles and reviews are published on our site, they undergo a thorough review process performed by a team of independent editors and subject-matter experts to ensure the content’s accuracy, timeliness, and impartiality. Our editorial team is separate and independent of our site’s advertisers, and the opinions they express on our site are their own. To read more about our team members and their editorial backgrounds, please visit our site’s About page.