10 Best Open Relationship Books

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10 Best Open Relationship Books

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It can be difficult to find good sources of information on open relationships and nonmonogamy.

That’s why we’ve compiled these books. They aren’t just good sources – they’re the best.

Opening Up


Bragging Rights: 4.7-star Amazon rating

In-depth interviews with more than 100 people help Tristan Taormino explore the various benefits and challenges of being in all styles of an open relationship. She also shares different solutions to common issues in “Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships.” Her wit and genuine tone will keep you enthralled as she changes the way you think about relationships.

URL: amazon.com/Opening-Up

Bragging Rights: 3.9-star Amazon rating

What do you really want out of your relationship? Matik takes you on a journey to creating your own ideal in “Redefining Our Relationships: Guidelines for Responsible Open Relationships.” This book redefines relationships by radicalizing a typical match, avoiding stagnancy and finding new levels of commitment. As one reviewer said, she “tackles a touchy topic with clarity and creativity.”

URL: amazon.com/Redefining-Relationships

Bragging Rights: 4.3-star Amazon rating

Easton and Hardy’s “The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships and Other Adventures” is the perfect book for anyone interested in exploring relationships outside of traditional monogamy. They throw out the myths and teach you the skills you need for a responsible, successful polyamorous relationship.

URL: amazon.com/Ethical-Slut

Bragging Rights: 4.2-star Amazon rating

Talk about “a full, fascinating glimpse into an untraditional relationship” – Sadie takes you on a ride through the peaks and troughs of her open marriage, being candid and honest the entire time. Each chapter contains a different story that she uses to share her experiences and justification for why she did what she did.

URL: amazon.com/Open-All-Way

Bragging Rights: 5-star Amazon rating

Stewart knows many people aren’t sure where to begin with their search into open relationships. That’s why “The Open Relationship Handbook: Basic Tips and Tools for Navigating Nonmonogamy” starts with the basics. She goes over definitions, questions and things to keep in mind. She even offers tips on how to negotiate relationship changes with your partner.

URL: amazon.com/Open-Relationship-Handbook

Bragging Rights: 4.7-star Amazon rating

Jealousy is generally unavoidable in open relationships. Fortunately Labriola is a counselor who specializes in polyamorous couples, so she has written “The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and Insights for Managing Open Relationships” as a tool to share her tips and exercises with couples. These techniques can be implemented in a crisis or over a long period of time to keep jealousy under control.

URL: amazon.com/Jealousy-Workbook

Bragging Rights: 3.6-star Amazon rating

A relationship expert, Simpere discusses polyamory and practices to make it sustainable within your relationship. “The Art and Etiquette of Polyamory: A Hands-on Guide to Open Sexual Relationships” shows the intellectual, emotional and sexual sides of polyamory while serving as a guide to couples with questions. The book also offers suggested guidelines and rules to implement.

URL: amazon.com/Art-Etiquette-Polyamory

Bragging Rights: 4-star Amazon rating

Block is honest and heartfelt as she shares her open marriage experience. She does not discuss open relationships as an “alternative lifestyle. Rather she believes her readers are people who are good, capable and looking for something more. This book challenges what a traditional relationship looks like and shows open marriages are a viable option.

URL: amazon.com/Open

Bragging Rights: 4-star Amazon rating

There is no beating around the bush with Ravenscroft. He dives right in to discuss the perks and problems that occur on a journey into nonmonogamy. There is no speculation – only skilled storytelling. Whether you’re considering introducing polyamory into your life or it’s been a part of it for awhile, you will benefit from this read.

URL: amazon.com/Polyamory-Roadmaps

Bragging Rights: 4.3-star Amazon rating

If you feel other books don’t touch on your kind of open relationship, this is the book you’ve been looking for. Linssen discusses 12 different couples and individuals who are trying to partake in responsible nonmonogamy. Tools and tips in every chapter provide valuable insight into open relationships.

URL: amazon.com/Love-Unlimited

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