He is Still Active on the Dating Site. Should This Bother Me?

Dr. Wendy Walsh
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Reader Question:

I’ve been seeing this guy for about three months now. We met online and just recently decided to not see other people. We really enjoy each other and starting to introduce our families.

He is still active on the dating website we met off of. He admitted to having casual conversations still from time to time. I’m not a jealous or insecure person, but this has kind of hit me wrong.

Should this bother me?

-Ayra (North Carolina)

Dr. Wendy Walsh’s Answer:


Should this bother you? Absolutely! He is still playing the field online and looking for a bigger, better deal.

I think you should call his bluff. Tell him his words of exclusivity mean nothing if he is still single online. Suggest that you two moved to fast and tell him you’re happy to go back online too, if he thinks staying single is best.

Oh, and another thing, stop having sex with him.

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