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How to Pick Up Men at the Gym

Nick Slade

Written by: Nick Slade

Nick Slade

Nick spent 20 years in the dating scene before marriage. He has always been the guy friends would come to for advice on relationships, and he developed a knack for giving helpful insights. After college, Nick was a disc jockey for a few years, when the love generation was still alive, so Nick has a lot of relevant experience to draw from when it comes to every aspect of dating, falling in love and screwing things up. He holds Bachelor's degree in humanities and a slew of master’s credits in journalism. Nick is a news junkie and tries to keep up on the latest non-fiction when he has time. He has published two books on how to win at dating and relationships.

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Lillian Castro

Lillian Guevara-Castro brings more than 30 years of journalism experience to ensure DatingAdvice articles have been edited for overall clarity, accuracy, and reader engagement. She has worked at The Atlanta Journal and Constitution, The Gwinnett Daily News, and The Gainesville Sun covering lifestyle topics.

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The gym is a nearly perfect self-contained social community. It is filled with people who care about their physical well-being, and it puts you in close proximity with many people of a like mind — at least in one area of interest.

It’s not an overt meat market, as the nightclubs tend to be, but it still has the potential for providing you with the man of your dreams, or at least a date for Saturday night! Every venture into the public arena gives you an opportunity to meet men, so you should always be on the lookout.

But the gym offers you some special privileges and advantages when it comes to picking up a man. These tips might help:

1. Sell it!

The first event in every beauty pageant is the swimsuit competition. First we get a look at the “goods,” and then we see the lady emerge in her evening gown. You already know the first thing that will attract a man’s attention, so take advantage of the gym atmosphere by showing off what you’ve got.

You don’t have to be a supermodel, but accentuate your best assets. Don’t cover everything with a sloppy sweatshirt and loose sweat pants. There is something about every figure that is appealing to men — and skin of any kind is high on the list!

The gym gives you a perfect excuse to walk around in a sports bra and spandex tights. Get something fashionable that makes you look cute. If you really want some attention, take the sweats off before your aerobics class publicly, and strut through the weight room when it’s over.


“Your best friends in the gym are a constant

inviting smile and friendly greetings.”

2. Share.

The gym gets very busy at times, and it can be hard to find a treadmill or elliptical machine. When you’re working out and see a guy of interest looking for a machine, wave him over.

Tell him you’ll be done in two minutes (even if you have 20 minutes left), talk to him as you finish up and wipe down the apparatus for him. Compliment something about his physique and ask him if he wants to join you at the juice bar when he’s done.

3. Ask him for help.

No man can resist a damsel in distress. Maybe you need help adjusting the weight on the leg raise machine or you “don’t know how” much weight to use.

You might choose the open machine next to your “target” and use your girlish charm. You can also check out the weight room, where girls might be a rarer commodity, and ask a guy to spot you while you try a bench press.

Or ask him how you can get nicely-toned triceps like his. He will be flattered and helpful as well. Just keep the conversation going.

4. Help him out.

Is the cute newbie having trouble adjusting a machine or finding his way around? Be his guide and assistant. Help him figure out the best routine to meet his goal, and be his workout buddy.

There are endless opportunities to get close to a man of interest at the gym, and the mood and close quarters already break most of the ice for you.

You share the same equipment and use the pools and saunas at the same time. You’re not really total strangers because you share a common gym and a common goal of fitness.

These are built-in topics of conversation to get the ball rolling for you. Your best friends in the gym are a constant inviting smile and friendly greetings to everyone you brush shoulders with, whether you are interested in them or not.

A friendly girl in tights can easily become a man’s best friend – or more!

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